Got a proper test this weekend. Have managed to get a 225W into 8 ohm amp and am using that to run the tops. Am running the signal into the DEQ and then using the aux outs (set to be the same as the inputs - i.e. no processing) for the sub and the monitor (the iNuke's DSP will do all the processing) - the main outs can then run to this borrowed amp to run the tops.
I was going to use the DEQ's EQ to make my Otops flat, but last night realised that it needs a HPF

I was then thinking/hoping that I could bodge it using several high shelving filters overlaid on each other in the parametric EQ (I know, not ideal, but I just needed to get the majority of <100Hz content away from the tops). I needn't have worried.. the DEQ has a "LC" (low cut) option. I tried using one, and the slope didn't look steep enough when I compared it to the one on my iNuke... I then laid another one on top of the first and bingo! The slopes looked about the same. I then A/B'd it and there was absoutely no difference in the sound. Therefore one of those LC filters must be 12dB/oct slope, so that when I overlaid the 2nd, I got the 24dB/oct that I was looking for. Add in the limiter that it also has, and I am wondering why the DEQ/DCX combo is needed, as the DEQ seems to do everything that BFM speakers needs. Using all 10 parametric EQ's (let's call them PMEQ), you could run one channel of subs (which would need 8 PMEQ's to create a LPF and HPF with 48dB slopes), and then 2 PMEQ's on the tops to provide the recommended 24dB slopes. You can then use the graphic EQ for RTA and you have a fully 'BFM compliant' system.
Thought I'd mention this as I haven't seen it anywhere else. If I had known this when I started, I may well have used a DEQ with a bog standard amp to get going for a reasonably cheap price - instead I chose the iNuke DSP as this had all I needed on it except RTA. Still, it's nice to have options now that both are capable of doing the job.